For some people, the funeral is an occasion that needs to happen to let go. For them the less they remember about the day, the better. Yet, for others having the day captured on film is part of the grieving process. It gives them lasting memories of the final goodbye.
When considering funeral photography it is vital to find a photographer who is comfortable to provide a discrete presence. They need to understand what the family are hoping to have at the end of the day. Be sure to meet with the photographer beforehand. You can discuss the wishes of those involved. It is likely that your funeral director will have contacts for those who specialise in this area. It is important to have left explicit instruction. On the day you will not want to be dealing with any unease from family and friends. You need to make them aware that the photographer will be present.
Ensure that you communicate to the photographer any areas you would prefer the photos not to reflect. Make clear any moments that are important to capture. Be sure to share your plans with the vicar or celebrant so that they are aware of the person with the camera. Ask that the flash is not used during the ceremony. Most venues have enough light. When outside ask that the flash is used when needed but not excessively. Ask the photographer to dress according to the rest of the party. If dark clothes are being asked of mourners, they should respect this and follow the dress code.
A good photographer will understand that the images need to be kept tasteful. There will be no posing and staging for most people. The photos generally capture the overall scene rather than people, so shot from the side or back. Most people do not want to see pictures of themselves upset. You may ask that any faces are edited post-production to add blur or some other effect.
Photos of the flowers and venue are safe areas. Many photographers will be comfortable with this. If there is a guard of honour, this is something that would normally be captured. This is very unique and special to the person who passed away.
Schedule a session with the photographer afterwards. Go through the images before you decide on what you would like to keep. What you might consider unsuitable may differ from the opinion of the photographer. They work for you so will want to respect your wishes.
Finally, it is a good idea to add a warning notice in the funeral notification or invitation. A simple statement such as ‘Jones Photography will be in attendance’ will be enough. If anyone has concerns, they can contact you before the day.